Actually, I’m really looking forward to this weekend even if I don’t get any Father’s Day gifts at all, such as a new motorcycle helmet. I’m planning to head down to Lake Sallateeska this Friday and Saturday for a Father/Son Camp. Not only am I going with my two boys, but we’re meeting my Dad there as well for a cook out, some fishing, and just plain hang time with the guys. Talk about a treat!
Listening to the radio this morning I heard the hosts talking about quantity time versus quality time. Which is better? Is it better to spend a greater amount of time with your children, or to make the shorter amount of time you have with them count? I think the answer is “both.”
Before I say anything I need to issue this disclaimer: I am not “The World’s Greatest Dad,” even though I still have the license plate frame one of my boys gave me that says otherwise. I don’t have all the answers, and I don’t even do some things right that I know I should. Okay, I don’t do a lot of things right that I know I should.
Men, we have so few years to invest in the lives of our children. It doesn’t always seem that way, for sure. There are times you think these kids will never grow up. But ask any parent whose children are now adults and they’ll tell you they wonder where the time went. And many who’d give anything to have back some of those years for a do-over.
You know how children spell love? It’s T-I-M-E. Dad, your children need you! They need you to be there. They need your quantity of time and they need that time to be quality. They need to know they can count on you. They need you to be engaged in their lives. They need to know that you care about them. They need you to show attention and affection. They need you to look them in the eyes and listen to their stories. They need you to answer their questions. They need your encouragement and affirmation.
They need you to discipline them appropriately when they get out of line. They need boundaries. They need you to tell them what’s right and what’s wrong. They need to know where you stand on issues. They need to know that you say what you mean and you mean what you say. They need you to teach them to respect authority and to respect others. They need you to teach them honor and commitment and love.
They need to see your life as an example of honesty, integrity, hard-work, faithfulness, gentleness, humility, courage, patience, forgiveness, compassion, kindness, gratitude and love. Tell them that you love them and show them love. Tell them you are proud of them, even if they’re not the star athlete or in the top of their class academically. Brag on their accomplishments to others. Help them develop in their areas of interest.
Let them see you loving their mother. It’s been said the best thing a father can do for his children is to truly love his wife. They’re watching you, Dad! They’re learning from your example in everything you do. What kind of men and women do you want them to be when they grow up? Then start building them up to reach that goal.
Give them your time, and make the most of every minute you have. They’ll be out of the house before you know it. Don’t live with regret. Give them your best now.
And most of all, pray constantly for them. Entrust them into the hands of our heavenly Father, who very capable raises them up in spite of our own failures and weaknesses. Lead them to Jesus, and the wisdom of their lives will be the greatest Father’s Day gift they could possibly give. With God’s help, we can do this, men!